Thursday, December 9, 2010

Thoughts on Blogging

The time has come. I received a negative, "anonymous" comment today on my post about Manning's birthday party. I knew that it was inevitable that with blogging I'd eventually encounter some negative comments, and I feel like it needs to be addressed. Here are my thoughts, in bullet form.

  • I blog for my family. My family meaning myself, Nathan and our children. I like to have the record of big events in our life...like a digital scrapbook. I can honestly say that even if I had zero followers I would continue to blog. I look forward to the day when Manning and I can sit down and look through this blog at his growth, development and milestones!
  • In the comment, I was accused of being hypocritical. I have nothing to hide. If there are ever ANY questions that you have when reading my blog, please ask! If you'd prefer to contact me privately, my e-mail address is on my profile. I'm one of the most open and honest people around, so feel free to ask me anything! While there are many things in my life you won't find on the blog, I don't think it makes me a hypocrite. It's kind of like a photo album of sorts. You don't stop in the middle of a spousal disagreement to take pictures and document the event...I think of my blog as the same sort of thing.
  • Leaving a comment anonymously is cowardice and rude. If you have the courage to say something about a certain way you feel, you should have the backbone to put your name to it. If you don't want your name associated with something you're saying, you shouldn't say it. Also, in case you didn't know, NOTHING you do or say online is truly anonymous. It's very easy with a few clicks to know exactly who left the negative comment. Just something to consider.
  • Along the same lines, it's really easy to judge others based on what they blog or don't blog about when you don't have a blog of your own. When you have a blog of your own you realize that it takes a lot of nerve to put yourself out there for people to see. It's a very vulnerable feeling.
  • I know the person that left the comment. This makes the situation even more complicated to deal with, but I'll briefly say this- After Manning was born, Nathan and I saw some situations in our life in a new light. It became clear that some situations we had been dealing with were only going to bring negative things into Manning's life. As his parents, we made the decision to protect him from these situations. It hasn't been easy, but honestly, we know in our hearts that we have made the decision that is best for Manning (and soon Deacon). Unfortunately, there are some hard feelings because of the decision we made. We make no appologies for making our son's well-being our priority, and we have no regrets. This blog is not the place to go into specifics regarding this situation, but as I stated above, I really, truly, have nothing to hide, and if you'd like to know more details or have ANY questions about our life, please e-mail me at kodibevelle at gmail dot com anytime! 
Thank you for taking the time to read this, and for being a part of our lives!

10 comments:

  1. I blog for the same reasons. Some of my IRL friends and family asked me why I blogged about certain things I do...with the kids. I laughed at them, what I blog about is for me and my family of 4 PERIOD!

    I agree with you and would still blog even if no one read or commented. Having blog friends is somewhat of a bonus.

    I can't wait for Layla & Hayden to look back someday and laugh about something we did, ate or wore.

    The last sentance of the 2nd bullet point is spot on...I love that statement!!!!

    I have really enjoyed getting to know you through twitter!!

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  2. Sorry that you got a negative comment!! I agree I blog for me and my family!! I don't care what others think!!

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  3. Spot on kodi!! I blog for the same reasons...digital scrapbook of our life. When I started my blog I didn't even know all that the blogging world had to offer. I have loved getting to know you. I hope you do move here :)

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  4. haha, I read the comment. This person sounds like an idiot. The funny thing is, if there was any doubt as to why you don't want them in your life, I think they just reassured you that you have made the right choice. We already know we will have to cut some losers out of our life that are bad influences when we have children.

    <3 you hun!

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  5. Ugh, I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. I get similar comments, and I wish people understood that I truly blog for me. I'm not artistic and this is my virtual scrapbook. If I made it private tomorrow I would still continue blogging because it really is for me and my family. Don't let them get you down - there are way more of us that love you and support your blog than there are haters!

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  6. Well said. I'm glad you shared that. I blog for the same reason and I understand what you mean about feeling vulnerable and putting yourself out there. You seem to have handled the situation well, bless your heart!

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  7. That's horrible that someone has done that!! Whatever the situation, I think you guys are doing awesome as parents and I'm glad to call you guys my family. :)

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  8. It is the unnerving thing about blogging. My logic is, if I ASK for an opinion in the post, then its's fair game. Otherwise, they should just view it as reading a journal entry and say something nice, or nothing at all :)

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  9. I don't mind opinions. Mine are strong, and tend to be pointed, so if someone has the same, I don't mind it stated. RESPECTFULLY. And not anonymously.

    I mean, if I don't like what someone has to say, I don't read. I wish everyone would do the same.

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  10. Ugh, what is wrong with people! Just keep being you!

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